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Many people are frightened by the term "family pass" and decided to go with the family "blended" instead. While it may be more politically correct, there is a great danger that the use of terminology. Let's take a look at why.
A family stage consists of several parts:
KidsHusband and his wife and his kidsNew married couple
Some of them revel in their various properties and keep them for their lives. These characteristics that definehas always wanted.
Now think for a minute or so the mixer friendly kitchen. When you use it? What is its purpose? It will take several ingredients and are part of a new concoction. In fact, if you're like me, is a bit 'annoying glare, began to pour and realize there is a mush at the bottom that have nothing else in the mix.
While it may be a good idea to take these different parts of the Klang family and "fusion" in theirone, is not so! Although they are not evenly mixed, no matter how hard you try! They are closer to your biological children of your stepchildren. And 'fool to think that once again that the wedding ring on his finger stuck there just love them as their children. Things are not uniformly mixed hours matter how you try.
A "Blender" mentality is pleasant sound, because of the nuclear family, where everyone remembers one. The couple had theirChildren, so everyone is glued to the same. It's nice and clean. This is absolutely not the case for a family pass.
This is like a small thing seems to be discussed: "I mean, it's just terminology, is not it?" Wrong. The terms we use to create, how we think about things. This is the danger in this situation.
Here are common problems that occur when we identify with the mixer:
Frustration, because everyone does not get on the road because should.Angerbe.Discomfort not as we should because life is not working properly as it should be accepted.
What is the problem with one of these? Each of them has this assumption, as things should be "." If our assumptions do not occur, it is really easy to give up, take things easy and have failed.
It's not that you have, or even that the family has failed. Instead, it is applied to the nuclear family, a project that you, your step family that has been lacking. Peoplenot "mixed".
Instead, the time the family can grow in relation to each other. All have each other for different amounts of time known. Give the relationship time to grow and develop in their own way. The first one enters the idealistic belief that this new family, nuclear family as your previous work, the faster you can enjoy what you should not try to solve the problem in frustration.
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